*i wrote this ages ago - august 28th, 2006 to be exact. but i thought i'd bring it here in order to expand my audience. 2 years later, i feel the same way.
I am so sick of hearing about these dysfunctional relationship scenarios. you know the typical one where everything seems cool from the outside, but the dude continues to cheat on his girl. and the girl just sits around at home, by herself on the weekends, looking pitiful. it's sad. pathetic-sad.
to the girls, he only does what you allow him to do. so either grow some balls and let that nigga know, or suck it up and quit complaining to your friends. i guarantee they're thisclose to being OVER IT. and to the guys, a lot of you are under the influence that you can continue on with your cheater lifestyle as long as you want b/c your chick's at home missing you. she would never cheat on YOU, right? stupid Ass. love to break it to ya - not all of us are pathetic. y'all are victims too, you're just oblivious. so many of you are being played as you read this, by your "good girl" at home. it's ridiculous for you to think she's inhuman. we have needs too! it may not be a sexual type of situation, but there's a guy that she's kickin it with who makes her laugh more than you do, asks her about her day, notices and compliments her when she changes her hair and most importantly, makes her feel special.
in addition to being able to vent my frustration, i also wanted to pose this question; if you have a wandering eye, wandering jimmy, whatever, why agree to be in a relationship? what is it about a boyfriend/girlfriend title that people are so hype about?
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and another thing! gentlemen, it is beyond self-centered for you to hold on to a chick simply because you don't want anyone else to have her. from my observation, this behavior has become commonplace. i personally know both offenders and victims of this type of scenario. let her go! am i the only one who believes in karma?
during the past couple of years, my dad has steadily been dropping knowledge on me about men. (he just recently accepted that i have shared a kiss...gotta love him!) so i'm talking to him about marriage and what makes a man decide he's ready. and my father tells me, straight up, that most men decide to marry a woman so that she can no longer be on the market. sadly, i was not surprised. but i couldn't help but wonder, am i naive for thinking that i can and will marry for love, there's a perfect person for me and we will share a mutual love for each other? as a self-proclaimed "realist", i whole-heartedly believe these things. i refuse to settle. there's a sort of desperacy in that that is not attractive in a woman. i'd rather be single than with someone who's not right for me. someone close to me recently accepted her boyfriend's proposal because she knew he'd be a good provider and they have fun together.
*crickets*
word? that's it? so the way he talks to you when he's frustrated is cool? the fact that his culture requires you to downplay your personality is aight? the fact that your family finds him to be a cocky bastard is straight? and don't get me started on his face. YIKES. most importantly, she wasn't in love with him. she loves what she hopes he will be. no butterflies. she says they'll come eventually. i cannot support this. can you?
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